If you ever look at the James Bond movies, you will see how smooth he is with women. They just seem the hang on his every word and he makes it look so easy. If you pay particular attention, you will notice that 90% of the attraction is created by touch.
As he speaks to them, he touches their hair or puts his hand on their leg and they just seem to melt at his every word. As an experiment, turn off the monitor and just listen to the sound to see the power of his words. They are not very impressive as I’m sure you will agree.
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Most of it seems like just normal ordinary conversation. Now turn on your monitor and watch the same scene with the sound turned off. It doesn’t really lose much of its power and you can clearly see what he is doing that is causing the attraction.
So how can you too use this? The technique we will be discussing today is best done in isolation, just before you kiss her. Imagine you are chatting to her and you are in a quite area of the bar. Simply interrupt her while she is talking and say “Show me your hand for a moment, hold it up and spread your fingers”.
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When she holds it up, bring your own hand up and interlock you fingers in hers. Lower your hands and give her a smile and say “You have really small hands… Now continue what you were saying”. She will do one of three things. The first is she may pull her hand away.
If she does then you know for sure that she is not ready to be kissed and you will have to build up more attraction. If she stays and continues the conversation after pulling her hand away, then you just have to tell more stories, build your value a little more and then try again in a few minutes.
The second thing she may do is to leave her hand there for a few seconds and then pull it away. If she does this just continue the conversation as if nothing has happened. Then tell a story that portrays you in a good light and builds your value.
When he state or energy changes in a positive manner, for example if she laughs, then gray her hand again and say “Now leave it here this time”. 95% of the time she will leave her hand in your and then you know she is ready to take things to the next level.
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The third thing she may do when you initially grab her hand is to leave her hand in your and continue the conversation as if nothing has happened. If this happens then you know she is following your lead and there is intense attraction there. This girl is ready to come home with you so kiss her and then go for the close.
We encourage every client to do this simple technique as it saves you the embarrassment of going in for the kiss and getting rejected. You are also leading the interaction which is extremely attractive to her.
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Iain Myles
Iain Myles is an internationally recognised dating coach and co-owner of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Kamalifestyles. Iain is also an internet sensation thanks to the multiple viral videos posted through the YouTube channel KamaTV, which has grossed over 100 million views.
Iain has appeared in numerous newspaper columns and radio shows across the world. He is a regular contributor to BBC Radio in the UK.
