Hey what’s up KamaTV, it’s your dating coach Emre yet again ready to take you through yet another tricky issue. Now, mustering the courage to approach and talk to new people can be a terrifying challenge. It is even harder when the person in question is a beautiful and attractive woman who you have your sights on and are dying to strike up and conversation and hopefully earn yourself a date. It is the sole reason why you are always coming up with excuses, not why you should not approach a particular woman or women in general. It is a psychological reaction where you are subconsciously trying to preserve yourself from facing rejection. It is an ego defense mechanism in its way.
This fear of the known and rejection, in general, inhibits you from putting yourself out there where you stand a chance of meeting amazing and attractive women and, ultimately, even true love. Now, in this video, I will also examine some of the;
- Top excuses men to justify themselves for not approaching women. I will then take you through
- How you can overcome them And lastly give you some pep talk about
- Why it is essential and advisable to contact beautiful women Whenever you have the chance.
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Now, first things first, why are you not approaching women even when you have the chance? Let us look at some of the excuses you are probably making:
Excuse 1: “She is out of my league.”
This is a conclusion many men come to whenever they feel or perceive the woman they have their eye on to be too good for them. It is not the first I am talking about the “out of my league” notion in this platform. For this reason, you know that utter nonsense and holds no water because the most valued and highly placed attribute when attracting women is confidence, which is within any man’s capabilities to master and achieve.
One way to do this is by using affirmations and asking correct questions. The concept is similar to affirmations, but instead of repeating positive and reinforcing statements to yourself, you ask yourself questions that will, in turn, generate positive comments for answers. For instance, instead of going the affirmations way, “attractive women want me,” you ask yourself, “Why are amazing women attracted to me?” you automatically prime your subconscious mind to start looking for reasons why quality women would be attracted to you. By paying close attention to these reasons, the belief that you have all it takes to attract women starts to ingrain itself deep into your consciousness. I have launched a programme called Confidence Booster, “gentleman’s ultimate online confidence programme” where I have guided you on how you can achieve the alpha male kind of confidence and provide you with all the tools you need to take your confidence to the next level. Please click the card above a check that out.
Excuse 2: “she is probably already dating.”
The biggest and most common assumption most men have is that every beautiful woman is already taken. What you do not realize is that is you took the time to get to know these women, most of them are single. Also, even without finding out, there are a thousand and one reasons why a beautiful woman could be alone. I mean, she could be busy, not the relationship type, hasn’t found her ideal man, doesn’t get out much, is not ready for a relationship, or she could be new in town.
The fact that there are so many reasons why a woman could be alone means that your guesses could also be endless. Now, which is easier? Guessing all your life or befriending and asking her about it? I imagined so too. It shouldn’t be a big deal. I mean, with a little playfulness and fun, you could ask her a question like, “so, what number am I in your list of boyfriends?” It will not only get you the information you are looking for but also will get her to laugh and keep things fun amidst the conversation going.
Excuse 3: “she has probably had enough of guys hitting on her.”
Well, to some degree, there is so much truth in this statement. Beautiful women are the most poorly hit on of all the women. As a result, they are all sick of men who are who need to be drunk to approach them. Or guys who have an agenda like getting there something maybe sex or phone number. Women have had enough of fake men trying to look cool in the hopes of impressing women.
However, when you set yourself apart from this multitude of men by being genuine, fun, and have no ulterior motive, women will surely enjoy your approach and company. It becomes even more comfortable to approach women when you are different, as she will be more open to you. You only need to walk up to women in question, be genuine, and real in your interaction, and you will have hit the jackpot.
Now that you a comprehensive outlook on some of the excuses you use to justify your fear of approaching attractive women, let us look at the top reasons why you should contact women.
Excuse 4: I do not know what to say
Well I disagree of course you know what to say. You have not practiced and prepared it and actually you never gave yourself a chance to speak your mind in front of women and be confident about what you have believed and what lived makes sense. What I mean is; you are still not comfortable of talking about your life, your hobbies, what you do, what you are passionate about, what motivates you, your stories… And also you do you ask the right questions to get her to talk to you so you can naturally contribute to the conversations and give value? You cannot say you have nothing to say… Anybody can say hi to start conversations as it doesn’t require a big investment you just need your tongue and show up… Now gents listen to me! You have a life and you have experienced so many things… Now think about it how would you talk to women if you believe your life worth to talk about and you are comfortable talking without thinking what she thinks of you? You would say anything and you would never say to yourself that you do not know what to say and divert from that anxiety to a more resourceful state! In other words you would feel more confident and start talking. So take action and believe that what you know is good, you worth and honestly don’t give a frack! What they think of you is not your business. Check out Annabella’s ebook Coversation Hacks as she is giving you solid strategies to build your conversations by using your natural resources and gents after the reading the ebook you will never run out of things to say!
It feels excellent to approach women, and it builds your confidence
When you step out of your comfort zone and approach a woman, you are interested in a genuine, authentic, and open way you will notice one thing for sure- that approaching women with any hidden agendas feel pretty damn awesome. This feeling is not attached to the outcome of the approach. Even when the woman rejects you, whether politely or not, you still feel accomplished from knowing that you mastered the courage to go for what you thought you wanted at that particular time. As a result, the more you do, the more you grow your confidence at approaching women.
Start following the two-second rule to grow further your confidence in approaching women. This is how it works; when you have your eyes on an attractive woman, approach her within the first two seconds. Do not allow yourself to overthink the possible outcomes which will hold you back. This way, you will manage to get many approaches under your belt in a short time, which increases your chances of getting more dates. Also, the more you get used to it, the more confident you get.
Women want to have fun too
We all seem to go through the same routines day in day out. This is no different with attractive women. They also get bored as everyone else and would love to have some kick in life. They would like it if a man came into their lives and shook up things for them to brighten their day.
Starting up a conversation using playful, fun, and teasing banter is a perfect way to brighten a woman’s day and get her to smile. Even if your approach does not necessarily lead to a romantic relation, you could get yourself a best friend in her, which is also something to be happy and proud. You could tease her by telling her stuff like, “Woah, you look like trouble, girl.” Such teasing will go a long way in making her warm up to love you.
Women need to connect with men too
Today, men have become so taken up by looks that you forget to see attractive women for the girls and human beings they are. For most men, it is almost like an achievement or something to brag about when one lands a beautiful woman. As a result, most attractive women are robbed off a chance to meet their innermost desires to connect and feel loved as opposed to feeling like a man’s trophy. As you can see, if you have no hidden agenda and are willing to provide the connection that such women are yearning for, then you can be sure that your approach is more than welcome. You are just overthinking things. Get out of your head.
Life is too short, not to
Yea, it is as it sounds. Life is too short not to approach that girl who you cannot go to sleep thinking. I mean, what’s the worst that can happen? Being turned down? Well, you do not lose any value because of being told no. Also, if you believe in destiny, you will know that what will be will be and what is not meant to be will not. Think of it like this, if you do not approach the pretty women, who will. When are you going to approach? when you are 80 years old? Like I have already said, we only live once, so whatever you feel like doing whenever you want. Life is more fun that way. Also, what is more comfortable to live with, rejection, or regret?
She might be equally interested
Sometimes you get stuck in your head too much overthinking minor situations like approaching a woman. For all you know, she could be waiting for you to make the first move. She could be equally interested in you as you are in her. Wasting such a chance because you fear the outcome is outrageous. The trick here is to look for hints and interest signals she could be sending you. At the slightest sign of interest from her end, drive right in my friend.
As you can see, you waste too much time overthinking minor things. Approaching women is what it is, and there are only two possible outcomes; you are either accepted or rejected. While it is only human to hope that your interest is reciprocated, do not approach women with any expectations. That is the only way to make it through another approach. Life is too short to hold yourself back.
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