I need to share this with you.
…because I recently had a guy with whom I started coaching express the following concern. Namely,
“A girl is being mean to me and I don’t know what to do. Please help!”
Whilst being compassionate towards others is a noble thing to do.. how often do you remember to show yourself the same level of kindness?
Do you choose to love yourself first?
We tend to believe that we love ourselves by default, and so, this line of questioning would appear to be meaningless at first glance.
But we were so wrong.
Because the unsuspecting mind forms a vacuum, which manifests the lack of self-care into your daily routine.
It is shocking when you begin to think about it.
But hey.. enough of the negatives.
I am here to tell you that by providing yourself with sufficient self-care and love, you will realise that it doesn’t matter how much you want a girl.
If she does not act right…
Then you will have to give up your short term desires and choose yourself first, always.
Why is self-care crucial?
Self-care is not a one-time event.
It is a progressive process that increases productivity, helps in stress management, and improves your general mood.
Self-care does not only entail loving yourself first, but also striking a much-needed balance in a world that is too hectic and demanding and where everyone only cares about themselves.
Grasping this will show you that you owe no one tolerance despite how much you want them.
If they don’t do right to you, you should lose them in a split second. No wasting time with people who don’t appreciate our worth.
Here is a list of how you can benefit from more self-care and love in your life:
Improved stress management
While eustress is necessary and essential to give us a little push in life and prevent us from boredom, chronic stress can have adverse effects on our mental, physical, and emotional health.
Actively engaging in self-care ensures that you cut out all the toxic and harmful influences in your life, which goes with all it’s adverse effects.
As a result, you will only be stressing about things that are helpful and worth your time.
Note that being with the wrong kind of people can cause you toxic stress.
Therefore, stop living up to people’s expectations and start living for yourself and watch your mental, physical, and emotional stamina improve to significant levels.
You become empowered even to end relationships that do not serve you anymore.
Promote a life balance
We live in a society that praises hard work.
If not careful, it is easy to fall victim to overindulging yourself in something in the name of working hard work with realising that it is doing us more harm than good.
Overworking decreases our productivity, causes us stress, and drains us.
Engaging in self-care, however, makes us immune to societal pressures, and therefore, we do not feel the need to overwork ourselves to meet other’s expectations.
It also empowers us to know when we need breaks and official leaves.
As far as relationships are concerned, self-care allows us to set limits for what we can and cannot tolerate.
By making yourself the priority in your life, your self-worth, value, and esteem grow in a significant way.
Self-care fosters a healthy intrapersonal relationship.
Through it, you realise that you are the only constant in your life, and therefore, you are the only person whose decisions, actions, and choices matter.
You can hold yourself with much regard and respect.
It thus goes without saying that when you respect yourself, you can never allow anyone to disrespect you at any point.
The same goes for every other aspect of your life; when you value yourself, you do not let other people mistreat you.
It is very crucial in relationships and other social interactions.
Be compassionate with yourself
You should be your own best friend. If you are not kind to yourself, who will?
You have to get to a point in life where you love yourself with all the shortcomings and flaws that you have.
It is easy to fall victim to negative self-criticism, especially if, at some point in our lives, people we expected to accept us were cruel and belittled us.
The negative non-stop chatter of how we are not worthy can go on and on in our minds long after it was said.
However, when you are gentle with yourself, you will soon realize that everyone is entitled to an opinion, but it does not have to be your truth.
Allow people to say what they please but always uphold your reality of being reliable, lovable, pleasant, and smart.
You are a human being, so handle yourself with care.
You are the only constant in your life; everyone else is only playing a part.
It doesn’t end here.
I’d strongly encourage you to watch my new video on this matter to make sure these points really hit home.
And one more thing..
Just remember that no woman is worth you giving up your self-worth!
Take good care of yourself.
And I shall speak to you soon.
All the best,
Executive Dating Coach
Iain Myles is an executive dating coach of Kamalifestyles. He specializes in coaching men who have been looking for dating success and chronically unlucky with women. He publishes regular infield dating videos and social experiments in KamaTV. He’s highly experienced in live training of our clients on streets, coffee shops, in bars and clubs. Iain teaches the core principles of the approach that every guy needs to know to become successful in dating including confidence, conversational skills, connection and mind sets.
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