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Improve Your Approach
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Most men can agree that approaching a woman they are interested in is probably the most daunting thing they ever have to do. They simply just don’t want to do it. It results from their fear of rejection. The concern is usually so real to men such that they begin to experience physiological signs of anxiety such as stuttering or would have to take several drinks before he can walk up to the woman he is eyeing. For example, just recently, my friend and I were catching up over drinks at a bar in Central London and he came to meet me with one of his colleague. My mate’s colleague set his sights on a woman seated alone the minute we entered the bar. Thirty minutes later asks me when would be the time to make a move. I told him that he would have done it the minute we walked into the bar, but he can still go for it. He, however, refused to say that he needed a couple more drink to approach her. One hour down the line, he was still stealing glances at her. The best thing was that she too, was making eye contact and holding his gaze. She even smiled at him at one point. She was projecting all the right signals with her inviting body language.
No hesitation
However, instead of feeling motivated to make a move to, finally, the eye and body game only motivated him to turn around and ask the barmaid for more drinks. By this time, he was over the roof with excitement due to the attention the lady was giving him. The only deal breaker was that my mate did not know how to approach women in addition to having had three whisky shots and four beers. An hour later, the lady left rather frustrated while my mate’s colleague was almost passing out at the counter; he was so nervous that he drank himself that he missed out on a chance to walk up to her — another potential partner gone; a missed opportunity. So why do we hesitate? My answer will be lack of belief and fears. Some men are afraid of approaching a woman because they do not have all the self-confidence and trust within themselves to do it. This is the reason why you will find some men taking some alcohol before they can talk to a woman. Gentlemen fears and lack of belief creates automated response of not taking action. You go into your mind and this creates more nervousness. You need to train your mind and body to act before the fight and flight situation and start acting on your goal and approach the girl you like.
The preparation
Moving on, no matter who you look like you have to understand that, you will have to deal with rejection at some point. It doesn’t matter how good looking you are. Good looking guys get rejected too. We all face rejection at some point; it is part and parcel of the dating game, it is normal. We cannot be everybody’s cup of coffee; some women like dark-haired men while others like blonds and there is nothing we can do about that. Some like their men chubby while others want them more muscular. Others wish to have them tall. In a nutshell, many factors come to play when choosing a partner, which is why you should not take rejection personally. With that said, you cannot allow fear to hold you back forever. Have an open approach to it that for every ten ladies you speak to, seven will reject you, and only three will take you. You might think that three is a rather small number which it is, but it beats having zero women due to lack of approach. If you are always approaching, three is a significant number to have. Rejection is not an easy thing to stomach. There are, however, several steps you can take to better your chance of succeeding. Most men who dare to approach women do so blindly, which is unfortunate as the turn of events could bruise their ego. Before making a move, I suggest you keep these three factors in mind.
Let go of the outcomes and be authentic
Let’s face it. We will never control her responses and it is an unknown. Why do we feel the need to control this? Why you are so much attached to her response? Have you ever thought of it? She will say yes or no! The best thing you can do here is be honest about the outcome you are obsessing over and the feelings associated with this situation. It is negative isn’t it? Let it go as it will never serve you well. Developing complete acceptance of the situation will free you from the outcome and you will set your attachments free. You are ready to float like a butterfly, feel free and relaxed. I am sure when you are in this mind set; you will be more productive, conscious and creative and taking action. You will not be held by the negative energy and feeling free will change your physiology. In other words you will look good and feel sharp! So why are we so much attached to the outcome? It is an ego thing we always want to do well and create expectations from the outcome of the interaction.
Actually this is setting you an anxiety to perform and creating negative energy without you noticing it. It’s more admirable to be brave and take a chance on someone than it is to let your anxiety get the better of you. I say it time and time again, what’s the worst that can happen. No physical harm can come from it, only psychological growth. Are your concerns about others opinions getting in your way? Are you concerned of how being rejected may play out in front of your friends? Well don’t be. You out of all of them are the one taking a risk, taking a chance and being brave. Any negative feedback you may receive is always based in fear or jealousy. Fear of a more dominant male and jealousy of not being brave enough to try it for themselves. Anything we do in life that causes a stir means we are breaking down barriers and being different. That difference will be the reason you succeed, because you will. Its inevitable. You just need to guts to go out there and be strong enough to withstand rejection. Your authenticity and desire to be better will be exuded by your confidence and determination which will be well received.
Before you can start talking to any woman, one principle should be clear, be authentic. It is only in being yourself when the woman will develop trust and feel the comfort in your presence. This is the reason why men have to pre-compose themselves especially when they spot a lady. Although composing yourself first is important, alpha males just do it from their hearts and win many women over. Confidence thus becomes a major asset for men when approaching women, hence the reason why they need to cultivate the same. As long as you have enough confidence within yourself, you will then be capable of talking to women anytime and anywhere. You need to be true to yourself, and never try to be someone else. Ladies love men who know themselves better but despise imposters. Just let the conversations flow, get to know her better, what she likes and things like that. It is by communicating and sharing stories when you will get a chance to know what she really likes, then take the time to surprise her.
Body language
Before getting in over your head, watch her body language. Street approach is different that the bar approach…Is she walking fast or slow? Is she looking down or up? When you are in the bar you will have more time to observe. Is she showing that she is interested in you too? If she is making eye contact with you frequently, plays around with her hair, is smiling or is fidgeting with her jewellery, you can be sure she is not going to brush you off. Using your knowledge in reading her body language will do your ego a lot of good; I mean, you will know better than to approach her unless you have clear indicators that she wants you. Also you must pay attention to your own body language after the approach or before the approach. Here are my eight points.
- Open chest
- Straight back
- Smile
- Chin up
- Relaxed shoulders
- Legs are shoulder width apart
- Sincere eye contact
- And always take your space
Flirting
Flirting confirms to you that her body language is saying what she wants you to get. At this point, you can flirt back to be sure that she is genuinely interested. You do not want to ask her out immediately to avoid the risk of rejection. Flirt with more than body language, talk to her. The key is to listen to how she responds to your flirty talk.it is not guaranteed that she will accept your offer, but you are standing at a better place. She might take a rain check. If she rejects at this point, it will not feel so bad. I mean you had fun flirting. Note that you can use flirting with screening her to decide whether or not you want her. You do not wish to have drama to unravel after your first hook up; from flirting, you can pretty much form an impression about her.
You can quickly know the kind of person she is. By now, you pretty much have the woman you were hoping to. You have analysed her body, and she is equally as interested. You have flirted with her, and she has been receptive. She could still react you at this point, but you do not much then you pretty much have done it. You approached the woman you wanted the minute you got the chance to. It was the goal, and you have executed it perfectly. As you can see, it is an easy thing to do. Overthinking it makes it look challenging. The trick is to go for it without giving it too much thought. In any case what will be will be: I mean, it will not take much to please a woman who is interested in getting to know you. On the same note, no amount of persuasion will work on a woman who is not involved in knowing you. It is what it is. Life is about risking and taking chances and let nature take its course. You only need to make sure that you are at your best throughout.
Ok Guys that’s all from me today… and I hope all the tips helped you out a lot and really appreciate that you have taken your time and watched my video. I know that it is a long video and if you are still here it means you really care about the content. Now go and take some action and apply the what you have learned. Never forget practice makes it better. if you want to take your dating life into the next level and if you are serious of making improvements; you can directly work with me and our team one on one. Let’s have a chat where you are and where you want to go… I mean your dreams and your goals, what stopped you and what is working also what is not working and tailor you a programme which helps you to get a to b. So please click the contact us link at the description below and fill the form and I am one click away to help you. One of our customer service rep will respond to you less than 24 hours and make sure your appointment is set with me and with my team to discuss ins and outs as well as low points and high points. Please also check our services and ebooks at kamalifestyles.com. Of course if you enjoy my video please like, share, comment and subscribe. I am Emre and I hope to talk to you soon.
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