It is important that when you are improving yourself with dating that you strive to always have a healthy mentality and outlook towards it.
Always keep track of what you are doing and obviously if you feel good doing it. Most guys start out with improving their dating lives with a poverty mind-set of no women in their lives.
Importance Of Balance
It is good that if you are in this position that you are looking to improve yourself but make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons which should be for your own personal growth.
(Accepting your control is limited plays hand-in-hand with your level of confidence. Reading this article will certainly help: Confidence Course).
The biggest mistake that you can make that can hamper your success with dating is judging and defining yourself by your results. For example if you get rejected, the worst mistake that you can make is that you come to the conclusion that you are a failure with dating.
You are concentrating on the wrong result
The skill of dating and how to generate attraction is a skill that can be learned and obviously the more you practice the better that you will get at it.
So every time you are practicing an element of your game like your approaching you should always be looking at how to improve your approach and whatever happens after that is a bonus.
By doing this you will actually feel less approach anxiety because you will no be longer outcome dependant. When you start out to learn something new you should always look at the long term plan and benefits you that will benefit from.
For example if you get good at approaching and generating attraction your social skills will drastically increase and it will improve almost all elements of your life and not just your dating life.
Having the right balance
It is important to always have the right balance or outlook in your life. Improving your skill with the opposite sex is a great skill to master but you should also look to concentrate and look after other areas of your life.
(Perhaps you just want to move on from the relationship. If so, then read this: How to move on from a toxic relationship).
Obviously developing strong social skills from your dating will pour into other areas of your life as you will be able to improve your chances of getting a well-paid job because you have mastered the skill of making a good first impression which makes all the difference to being successful at a job interview.
The same goes for making new friends as you will naturally find it easier to connect with making both male and female friends.
You should always be looking to have variety and balance in your life, other examples would be going to the gym and looking to travel abroad more, going to the gym will not only make you look more attractive but it is good for your mental health and travelling and living abroad will make you more cultured and interesting to talk to.
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Emre Ilkme
Emre is author, dating coach and CEO founder of Kamalifestyles. He has written books which sold thousands of copies over a decade. Emre trained and coached many clients from all over the world and men of all ages on how to improve their confidence, relationships and dating.
He has expertise in confidence, approach and attraction and has been featured in top newspapers and radios. He is passionate on helping his clients to achieve great outcomes and make sure they are not held back by the limitations.
