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Relationship Breakdown

There is nothing more rewarding when I found out that one of my clients is in a relationship especially when it was one of their goals when they came to me to begin with.

And if you find yourself in a similar position then well done as there is nothing more rewarding than being in a relationship with a girl that you really like.

But be aware that it is not the final destination as knowing your role in a relationship is very important to keeping and maintaining a healthy relationship.

Keep your identity

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It is great to get emotionally involved with someone but it is important to remember who you are as a human being.

It is great to do things as a couple and have mutual hobbies and friends but the biggest mistake that most guys make is that they almost lose who they are as an individual and it is important to be aware of this as respecting each other’s individuality is an important part of keeping a relationship healthy which brings me to my next point.

Do not stop what you are doing

I am not saying to keep going going out with your friends like you did when you were single but it is important that you still have your own life.

A thing that many women tend to make a habit of doing is that they treat their man like their pet project in that they try to change who they are.

This is fine in certain areas as it can improve the guy in how he dresses or grooms himself but my point is that sometimes women go too far and what they get in the end, they usually don’t like.

Like a cat playing with a string, once you give him the string he gets bored of it. Whether the girl realizes or not, she will lose respect for her guy.

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So be aware of this because as much as you want to keep your girl happy do not go overboard and completely give yourself and your identity up for her.

Respect each other’s boundaries

This ties in with my last point in that when you both find yourself in a relationship that does not mean that each of you have to give up on hanging out with your social circle that you would normally hang out when you were single or do the hobbies you would have done.

This is important to remember as both of you still need to have your own space.

This is usually when a relationship goes downhill when neither the guy or the girl in the relationship becomes too clingy and immersed in it and it usually becomes too much as the relationship becomes unhealthy and one sided and it becomes too much of a burden for the other partner.

These points that I have highlighted are usually the reason why most of my clients come to me in the first place as they are usually guys that have been in a stagnant relationship and are finding it difficult to get back into the dating scene because one the main reasons is that they have completely forgot what it was like to be a single person and to have a mind of their own.

So I cannot stress how important it is to keep your identity when you are in a relationship.

Just because you are in a relationship that does not mean you have to give up everything that you had in your single life.

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Iain Myles

Iain Myles is an internationally recognised dating coach and co-owner of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Kamalifestyles. Iain is also an internet sensation thanks to the multiple viral videos posted through the YouTube channel KamaTV, which has grossed over 100 million views.

Iain has appeared in numerous newspaper columns and radio shows across the world. He is a regular contributor to BBC Radio in the UK.