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Love Yourself Before You Can Love Anyone

Love Yourself Before You Can Love Anyone

Love Yourself Before You Can Love Anyone

Love Yourself Before You Can Love Anyone When I first started out on my journey to improve my dating life I thought that I knew what I want which was how to get a girlfriend. At this stage my mind was just focused on finding a quick solution from how to get where I was which was being a single guy to getting myself a girlfriend that I really liked.

The more I ventured down this path the more I realised that it was not as simple as that. In order for me to improve my chances of finding an amazing girl I had to learn what women want and what they find attractive in a man.

Relationship Breakdown

Yes I found it possible through trial and error to make a good impression with a girl through clever use of approaching methods but ultimately I realised that in the long run this was not enough. The main reason why so many relationships break down is that either one or both person sees getting in a relationship as a means of fixing their life in that it will solve all of their problems.

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I thought this too. Initially when you meet someone you are really attracted to and drawn to, the start of the relationship is amazing, you can lose yourself in the other person both physically and emotionally and it is an amazing stage of a relationship but as the relationship starts to progress, the cracks start to show.

Jealousy and neediness usually start to show which is a sign of insecurity in the person. I have come across many situations where the relationship ended because the guy or girl was just too possessive for the other person and this comes down to the guy or girl not dealing with emotional issues that were always there but for reasons they just could not deal with them or face them.

Face Your Demons

In a nutshell it is important that you face your inner demons head on instead of burying them as they will always surface in some way or another.

For example if you have issues of self-loathing, how do you expect someone else to love you if you are not able to love yourself? A lot of these personal demons are usually unresolved issues from your past that you have not dealt with properly and the sooner you face these issues, the better and cleaner you will feel in the long run.

Accept Yourself for Who You Are

A big issue with a lot of guys is that they are afraid to be their true selves when they are meeting women. Women are very sensitive and intuitive to these elements and they will perceive this as fake and unattractive.

Whether you are a guy or a girl you should always be yourself when you are dating people, don’t hold back on this as when it comes down to it, you are looking for someone who will accept and love you for who you are. If you are afraid of someone rejecting you for being your true authentic self then they are simply not for you.

So be comfortable being who you are, no one is perfect and we all have good and bad traits that we are always working and looking to improve on.

Be True To Yourself and Follow Your Passions

In regards to my last point of being yourself you should follow what makes you smile and makes you want to get out of bed in the morning. However you choose to spend your life make sure that it is aligned with you are and what you want out of life.

If you are working in 9 to 5 job and you find yourself counting the days to your next holiday or weekend then it means that you obviously are not happy in your job.

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I’m sure you have heard the saying “if you love your job you will never have to work again”. When you are doing what you feel happy and passionate about everything else will fall into place.

Being in a relationship should be viewed almost as a bonus to which you have someone that you can share your wonderful life with. The ultimate victory in life is finding that happiness in yourself as opposed to looking for it externally like being in a relationship for the sake of it.

Quite simply once you have your life in order you will find it easier to attract the girl or guy of your dreams.
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Iain Myles

Iain Myles is an internationally recognised dating coach and co-owner of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Kamalifestyles. Iain is also an internet sensation thanks to the multiple viral videos posted through the YouTube channel KamaTV, which has grossed over 100 million views.

Iain has appeared in numerous newspaper columns and radio shows across the world. He is a regular contributor to BBC Radio in the UK.