We all tell lies to save our skin or to avoid hurting the other person; it’s a survival tool in a way. However, sometimes lies can emotionally damage the person that’s being lied to How to tell if your girlfriend is lying.
The emotional attachment that people develop when they are in a romantic relationship can sometimes cloud their lie detectors. There are things you’ll naturally never care to take note of when you trust someone.
However, the emotional and mental impact one experiences after realizing they’ve been lied to can be detrimental. It can affect your confidence, perception of women and relationships, and even your self-esteem depending on the intensity of the lie.
Girlfriend is lying
In this blog, I’ll take you through a series of ways on how to tell if your girlfriend is lying. Understanding the signs of lies in the early stages can inspire emotional and mental stability. You’ll be able to notice the lies before they take a toll on you. 1. She’s over-explaining herself. The first fool-proof way of how to tell if your girlfriend is lying is by how she tells her story. It’s common for couples to try and explain themselves to help their partners understand them better. Nevertheless, when your girlfriend is lying to you, she’ll tend to over-explain herself. People tend to create ‘perfect stories’ when they are lying to you. Your girlfriend will over-explain because she’s trying to beat all the points of doubt she thought you’d have. (Learn how to crack the texting code: How to ask a girl out over text). The challenge here might be determining when your partner is over-explaining a situation. A simple test will be to look at how you would have responded. For example, if the question you asked would have been easily answered with one sentence and your girlfriend spends a whole 10 minutes explaining her answer, that’s a cause for a red flag. 2. They are explosive and defensive. People have patterns of how they respond to situations, which is why it’s easy for new people to interact. Being defensive is part of a healthy interaction because it gives you a chance to take a stand and explain yourself. However, when your girlfriend is lying to you, she’ll be very defensive. Normally, you’ll back down when you approach your girlfriend and she becomes defensive. It makes you question whether you are right on the matter, which is usually the intention of someone very defensive. Most people will remain calm when they know they are telling you the truth. They might even offer to be silent if you don’t believe them because there’s nothing more to say that will explain their honesty. 3. A disconnect between words and body language It can be very challenging to spot the lies when you are only listening to what your girl is saying. However, when you have a keen interest in nonverbal communication, it becomes much easier to spot lies. When your girlfriend is lying to you, her words will say one thing and her nonverbal cues communicate something different. However, sometimes the nonverbal cues are subtle, which is why most girls get away with their lies. (Running out of things to say is a huge issue nowadays. This will help: How to keep a conversation going with a girl). Here are some body language tips to look out for when suspecting your girl is lying:-
- She’s avoiding eye contact or maintaining it unnaturally. When a girl gives you weird prolonged eye contact, she’s trying to display fake confidence to make you believe her lie. Furthermore, most people know that avoiding eye contact makes them suspicious.
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- Her nonverbal cues make you feel uncomfortable. You can know if your girl is lying to you by how you feel. You’ll be uncomfortable when you feel something is not right, which can be the nonverbal cues you’ve picked in the conversation.
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- You notice she’s fidgeting a lot. Some people are not good liars and they become nervous when they lie. If your girlfriend is fidgeting a lot when telling you something, it can be a sign that she’s nervous and possibly lying to you.
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- She has an unstable tone. Most people’s pitch tends to be irregular when they are lying. It’s a sign that someone is unsure or nervous about what they are saying.
- You notice that your girl is leaning away from you. It’s highly unlikely to feel safe when you are lying. Leaning away from a person is also a way of creating psychological distance, which happens subconsciously when a person is lying.
Emre Ilkme
Emre is author, dating coach and CEO founder of Kamalifestyles. He has written books which sold thousands of copies over a decade. Emre trained and coached many clients from all over the world and men of all ages on how to improve their confidence, relationships and dating.
He has expertise in confidence, approach and attraction and has been featured in top newspapers and radios. He is passionate on helping his clients to achieve great outcomes and make sure they are not held back by the limitations.