How to stop punishing yourself after rejection?

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Very few things hurt as much as rejection does. Regardless of what form it takes, be it; not being invited to a friend’s party, not passing an interview, being dumped by a lover or being criticised. It never hurts any less, especially if the person rejecting you is a person close to you. When this happens, it is easy to result in self-punishment; this is where you reflexively turn against yourself with scorn and anger whenever you feel embarrassed or rejected. You might yell at yourself, count yourself short, call yourself names, cut off people and discard yourself too.

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If you have gone through this, you are not alone. It happens to a good number of us. It may look like a justified route to take after the hurt that comes with rejection, but we all know that it a negative path to take. It, however, calls for a little more self-love and appreciation. With this, how can you stop punishing yourself after facing a rejection?

Here is how:

1. Realise that it is more about the other person than it is about you.

It is rather self-explanatory. Whenever someone rejects us, it usually has little to do with us. Look at it this way, the best you can be is yourself; we cannot change who we are. Therefore, people reject us for who we are not and not because of who we are. With this as the case, we do not need to feel sorry, hurt insufficient and do not have to feel bad. I mean, why should you bother because someone rejected you because you are not tall enough to meet their standards? Or because you are not as light skin as they like their men? Who you are is the best you can offer, and it will be enough for the right person. When you begin to adapt to this perspective when handling rejection, you will soon learn to take it for what it is and deal with it positively.

How to stop punishing yourself after rejection?

Emre is author, dating coach and CEO/founder of Kamalifestyles. He has written books which sold thousands of copies over a decade. Emre trained and coached many clients from all over the world and men of all ages on how to improve their confidence, relationships and dating. He has expertise in confidence, approach and attraction and has been featured in top newspapers and radios. He is passionate on helping his clients to achieve great outcomes and make sure they are not held back by the limitations.

Annabella Rose is a Dating Coach and youtube presenter. She regularly publishes videos on KamaTV. She takes clients in to the bar and clubs and teaches her magic! Her speciality is approach and attraction. She also helps to develop confidence and conversational skills and gives honest perspective on the world of women from a woman’s point of view. Most of our clients say “the best advice ever” after talking to Annabella..