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How to stop being horny

How to stop being horny

The sexual urge can be a very compelling force for most guys. It pushes guys to crazy lengths to satisfy it. If you are constantly thinking about sex, chances are you are horny most of the time.

I know that there’s nothing wrong with thinking about sex or being horny; in fact, those are very pleasurable moments. But too much of something can create an unhealthy dependency and make you its slave. That’s when you get hit by post-nut clarity every time you have sex and start feeling bad for doing something that was giving you so much pleasure.

To have the same thrill each time you have sex as you did the first time, there’s a balance you need to master. Being horny can rob you of not only sexual pleasure and gratification but also drain your energy in other aspects of life. That’s why you are here; to find ways of how to stop being horny.

In this blog, I’ll show you how to stop being horny and have control of your sexual excitement. It’s my desire that you’ll find information in this blog that will help you build a strong emotional will not only stop being horny but also build the courage to change other undesirable habits. Nevertheless, it’s not designed to replace medical and psychological assistance that you may be getting or need.

In one of my seminars, I met a very fascinating young man. He had an obsession with sex and he was on a journey to change his lifestyle because he wanted to stop focusing so much on sex.

He had sex the first time when he was a freshman in college, and that’s when everything changed for him. He could not get his mind off sex. He told me one semester his pursuit to quench his sexual desires made his grades tank.

It’s a cause for alarm when being horny stalls other parts of your life. For example, if your sexual demand is too much for the person you are in a relationship with it can be the cause of problems. When you are thinking about one thing too much, it occupies your mind and leaves little to no room to think about other aspects of your life that could be ailing.

You can improve your emotional intelligence by simply mastering how to stop being horny. When you can control an impulsive and compelling feeling like sexual excitement, you can control most of the emotions that you experience every day.

To get a deeper understanding of the topic, first, we need to explore possible reasons why you are horny most of the time. The possible reasons might include:

Your hormones

Most guys consider testosterone as the magic hormone. When you have more than average, you could look like Hercules and sound like Idris Elba. However, it also increases your libido.

It might sound exciting when you have average or low libido. But guys with increased libido have strong sexual urges which can ruin other areas of their lives if they don’t learn how to control the urges.

Dry spell

Sex is a basic human need. Although some people don’t fancy sex, the majority of the population finds excitement and gratification from sex. You are likely to continuously think about sex when you have stayed for a long period without it.

Frequent masturbation

Another popular reason why some guys are horny all the time is frequent masturbation. Although some people take masturbation as a quick fix to stop being horny, in the long run, it can do more damage than good.

Think about it, when you are in the act of self-pleasure, you don’t think about your pending work project or ways to improve your business. You occupy your mind with what you find sexually arousing.

You subconsciously train your mind to think about what you find sexually exciting frequently. That’s how you end up in a subway and your zipper wants to split open because of what’s running through your mind.

New sexual interest

You have a curious mind and so does everyone else. When you encounter something new that excites you, your brain can instantly go on overdrive to explore.

New relationships can be characterized by amazing sex because the couple is still curious about each other. You might find yourself reminiscing or thinking about what you’ll do to her once you lay your hands on her which may prompt you to be horny.

There are more possible reasons that could prompt you to be horny. But these are just highlighters to get you started. You can list some of the things you think may you horny frequently. Do you watch porn frequently or view most of the women you meet sexually?

Now that you’ve seen what could potentially be taking blood from other parts of the body to that one place you don’t want it, Let’s explore some techniques that will help you overcome sexual excitement and urges:

1.      Understand what triggers the frequent arousal

The first step to how to stop being horny is understanding what triggers the frequent sexual excitement. Some reasons for being always horny are situational and others are deep-rooted inside you. Understanding what is triggering the frequent arousal will give you an insight into what you are dealing with.

Some guys get frequently horny when they are in new relationships. You are lucky if that’s the case because it means with time you’ll go back to healthy sexual habits. But on the other hand, it can be a silent thorn in the new relationship.

Understanding if the trigger is situational or habitual can help you plan if are going to overcome it with a short-term or long-term plan. For example, if you are horny all the time because you haven’t had a woman’s touch in while, the remedy is to get laid.

2.      Engage in physically demanding activities.

The fastest way to stop being horny is to engage in physical activity. You’ll not want to think about sex when you are physically exhausted. Strong sexual urges can be a sign of a buildup of energy that needs an escape.

Engaging in physically demanding activity will momentarily switch your brain’s focus to what you are doing rather than sexual fascinations. For example, when you are working out at the gym, it will be very challenging for you to think of what sexually gets you excited and still have the correct body movements.

Take a physical activity that you might enjoy like swimming or lifting weights. The physical exercise that you take has to be mentally engaging. If you just do something that doesn’t involve your mind, you’ll end up tired but still horny.

3.      Take another look at your diet

Another sleek way of how to stop being horny is making adjustments to your diet. The food you eat has a significant influence on your mood which can affect your mental state. Some foods are aphrodisiacs which means they stimulate your sexual desire.

Some of the aphrodisiac foods might include figs, oysters, strawberries, chocolate, and pumpkin among many others. These foods are considered to awaken the love senses while some are associated with increased libido.

Nevertheless, some foods can decrease your sex drive if you are looking to stop being horny. Foods rich in sugar, sodium, potassium, fats, and oil can play around with your hormones and reduce libido.

4.      Get your fantasies out of the way.

We all have sexual desires and fantasies that give you a devilish grin when you think about it. However, your sexual fantasies can be the reason you are always horny. Your fantasy can be dominant in your mind depending on how bad you desire it.

For example, you have a fantasy of having sex with a woman with certain physical attributes. Your fantasies will come rushing in regardless of where you are which might get you horny.

The idea of imagining how something might be can increase your curiosity and make the idea dominant in your mind. The more your mind dwells on your sexual fantasies the horny you’ll be throughout. Fulfilling your sexual fantasies can be the best way to stop feeling horny if that’s the case.

5.      Take an ice-cold shower.

This is for guys that are looking for an immediate remedy to stop feeling horny. There are times you are horny but you don’t have the outlet you desire. For example, you are on a business trip and staying at a hotel then from nowhere (of course you know what triggered it) you feel horny.

Rather than settling for anything, a cold shower could suppress the horny feeling for some time. But if you feel horny frequently, this is not a long-term remedy.

Parting Shot

You can be influenced by a lot of things to feel horny. But at the end of the day is a mental and emotional state. Practicing mind and emotion calming and control activities like meditation and yoga can help you be in charge. You might not decide how you feel, but for sure you have the power to control how you react.

You can consider getting professional help. It might be a losing battle if you are going against your hormones, or you don’t have an idea of what’s making your sexual urges a problem.

It takes a lot of courage for guys to admit they have a sexual problem. As much as we enjoy sex, most people shy from the challenges that come with sex and tag them as shameful or weak. You are working towards achieving a healthy sex life and that is something to be admired. Keep trying and you’ll get the control you want with time.

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Iain Myles

Iain Myles is an internationally recognised dating coach and co-owner of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Kamalifestyles. Iain is also an internet sensation thanks to the multiple viral videos posted through the YouTube channel KamaTV, which has grossed over 100 million views.

Iain has appeared in numerous newspaper columns and radio shows across the world. He is a regular contributor to BBC Radio in the UK.