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How to make a girl fall for you

The modern dating scene has become like the Wild West. Beautiful girls are on the radar of every guy that sees them. It’s a constant state of competition who’ll get the woman with a bigger challenge of who will keep her.

In this article, you’ll explore how to make a girl fall for you. When a woman is head over heels for you, it becomes easy to keep her because she’ll reject guys that approach her. You’ll get deep insights into what women secretly find attractive in guys.

Now, understanding the crucial pillars in building a strong relationship that will inspire a woman to fall for you is important. Trust, confidence, comfort, curiosity, and interest are all crucial pillars you’ll need to have to build a progressive relationship that will make a woman fall for you.

However, most women feel that guys just want to hit and step. That widely shared perspective makes it even more challenging for guys to forge the crucial pillars in a relationship. The need for most women to self-preserve makes them emotionally unreachable.

The good news, however, is you can improve your odds of getting a woman by a huge margin when a girl feels attracted to you.

(If I were you I’d definitely download this free eBook to further enhance your odds: Get a Girl to Like You).

Let’s look at qualities women secretly desire in men:

Pride and ego: Most women find guys with the right level of pride and ego to be very attractive. A good number of guys with ego don’t settle for less than what they feel they deserve. Women find it attractive because they know they’ll not get less than what they’ve signed up for.

Finding the right balance of pride and ego is where the true skill lies. You can inspire that balance by understanding the compromises you are willing to make to accommodate a woman and where you’ll be assertive.

Good sense of style: A good sense of style is one of the subtle nonverbal cues that can make a woman fall for you. Most women associate guys with an exquisite taste of style with fun and positivity. Women will be drawn to you because of the vibe you inspire.

The best way to improve your sense of style is to dress according to your body type. Clothes that compliment your body can increase your masculine energy.

Confidence and charisma: Confidence and charisma make a guy look like they know what they are doing. Women desire men that seem to have a bearing in life and confident guys offer that.

Experience and skills to treat a woman: Women desire men that can treat them like the only ones remaining in the species. However, understanding what the woman desires can allow you to know which skills to display.

Jealous and protective: On the contrary to what most guys think, women are attracted to jealous and protective guys. It is a way that women are reassured of their value in the relationship.

But becoming overly jealous and protective can push the woman you desire away. It’s a show of insecurity or lack of trust which are deal-breakers for most women.

Equality: Women are very attracted to guys that view them as equals. Most women perceive that guys that view them as equals will support them in life rather than coming in to be the master.

You can become a high-value guy to the woman you want by checking more boxes in her wish list of what she desires in a man. She’ll grow less resistant and make her boundaries flexible for you.

(Do you want to know what she truly desires? You need to check this out: Dating Hot Women).

Let’s explore how to make a girl fall for you without second-guessing:

1.    Build trust with the girl.

The easiest way to make a girl fall for you is by understanding her. However, most guys perceive women to be from another universe, which makes it almost impossible to understand them.

Building trust is the one thing that will help you understand a woman. Once a woman trusts you, she’ll be comfortable sharing with you sides of her and secrets that will help you understand the woman’s thought process and desires.


Women seamlessly fall for guys they trust because of the emotional security that trust guarantees. When a woman trusts you, she becomes hopeful that things with you will work. It inspires her to bring down any emotional wall and become daring.

There are two ways that you can build trust fast with any woman. First, you have to understand the triggers that make a woman mistrust guys. Second, be consistent with your behavior and how you treat the woman.

2.    Build genuine interest in the girl.

The next sleek way to get a girl to fall for you is building genuine interest in her. Some guys lose the women they desire because the woman didn’t know the guy exists or thought the guy wasn’t into her.

Building genuine interest in a woman can show her how much she means to you. A woman can feel compelled to know the things you like because she feels you know what she likes. The more her interest grows in you the easier it becomes for her to fall for you.

(Here is a more in depth article on how to get her attracted to you: How to get a girl to like you).

The plus side of building interest in a girl is you’ll know which topics to avoid and which ones to explore. You’ll understand how she perceives life and avoid conflicting with her deep-rooted beliefs, values, and interests.

Reducing friction in your conversations and interaction can make the woman see you as the perfect partner.

3.    Intertwine the girl’s social circle with yours.

For a woman to fall for you, she needs to overcome her fears and insecurities about you. She needs to convince herself that you are the best guy for her. Social proofing is a sneaky way of positively influencing a woman’s perception of you.

Most people feel the pressure to fit in and that drives them to do what other people expect of them. What’s the best way to make yourself indispensable is to appeal to the people a woman runs to get advice from?

A woman will find you irresistible if people around her tell her you are a good match. However, you are likely to also experience resistance from people close to her if you approach them to get closer to a woman.

Introducing the woman to your friends and family and letting her form a relationship with them can increase your value in a woman’s life. She’ll have more reasons to not let you go.

Most women introduce guys they like to their friends and family. When a woman introduces you to people close to her that’s a sign that she’s falling for you. She wants those close to her to qualify you or get to know you depending on how deep the woman has fallen for you.

4.    Highlight the things you have in common

Telling a woman about the things you have in common is a sleek move. But it’s a gamble if you want the woman to fall for you. Showing a woman the things you have in common is a sure way of getting the woman you desire.

For example,

  • If your girl likes art, you can take her to an art gala of the type of art you’ll both love.
  • If she’s a Marvel fan, you can use references to Marvel characters in your chats. (It will make you unique from other guys that are chatting with her.)

It’s easy to build a strong emotional connection when you are both doing something you love. The woman will lower her guard around you. She’ll also get to interact with you with a side of herself that she enjoys.

(Do you want her to become your girlfriend? If so, you need to read this: How to get a girlfriend).

Women like to feel stability and highlighting what you have in common makes them feel you are familiar and predictable to them. She’ll build more trust with you which would foster her comfortability around you.

5.    Show emotional maturity and high emotional intelligence.

It’s challenging to figure out how to make a girl fall for you if you don’t understand what the girl wants. The majority of couples in modern relationships feel like they are walking on eggshells. People have very little room for error and that’s why most people don’t want to invest all their feelings in a relationship.

Displaying a high level of emotional maturity and intelligence can make you an attractive partner to any woman. A woman will feel accepted and understood which can inspire a woman to grow closer to you emotionally.

It’s also easy for guys with high emotional intelligence and maturity to hold a progressive conversation with women. That’s because people with superior emotional stability inspire trust in people that interact with them.

6.    Give her a chance to chase you.

One common mistake that most guys make when trying to make a woman fall for them is stepping on gas throughout. Most guys try to prove themselves worthy to the woman but they don’t give the woman a chance to prove their worth to them.

It’s challenging for a woman to fall for you if she can’t miss your presence and the benefits of having you around. Maintaining the chase can also make you predictable to a woman. She’ll know you’ll do anything to try and impress her.

(You also need to be aware of how you message her. Check this out: How often you should text a girl to keep her interested).

A woman can maintain an emotional wall that will prevent attachment if you are always chasing. However, pulling back and allowing the woman to make the chase can emotionally open her up. She’ll let her guard down to try and reach you which can create ample time to connect with her.

Taking a step back from the chase, allows you to evaluate where you stand in the relationship and the woman’s life. A woman that has emotions invested in you will try to fill the gap. However, if she doesn’t, you know where you stand and the effort you have to put in to make her fall for you.

More often than not guys lose the women they desire because the woman didn’t see the guy’s interest. Understanding and noticing signs that a woman is falling for you can help you escalate and get the woman.

Here are signs that a woman is falling for you:

▪    She shows up to your random plans with her.

▪    She opens up to you more about herself and the past.

▪    She fancies the idea of making future plans together.

▪    She introduces you to people that matter to her.

▪    She cares about what you think about her and some of the decisions she makes.

While how to make a girl fall for you might be a stubborn thought, working on yourself and building your skills is the slickest way to make a woman fall for you.

It’s challenging to understand a woman’s romantic relationship fantasy and present it to her. But it’s easy to get a woman when she can see all the qualities she desires in a man in you!

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Iain Myles

Iain Myles is an internationally recognised dating coach and co-owner of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Kamalifestyles. Iain is also an internet sensation thanks to the multiple viral videos posted through the YouTube channel KamaTV, which has grossed over 100 million views.

Iain has appeared in numerous newspaper columns and radio shows across the world. He is a regular contributor to BBC Radio in the UK.