This seems like an obvious question and a lot of my clients come to me with different goals, some want a wife, girlfriend, one night stand etc. and what they all have in common is that all these guys want beautiful women in their life.
But the problem is that they look at the whole issue of their problem in the wrong way, like everything in their life that they want they tend to look for the quick solution like the best chat up lines or the best dating websites.
They do not think that the solution to their problem is external not internal as in within themselves. And that is why a lot of guys come to me for the solution to the problem which again they hope is the quick solution like the best pickup lines or the best way to ask a girl out.
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I can obviously help them in this regard but my goal with all my clients is to help them and guide them to find the best solution for whatever problem they have themselves. And below are some basic but essential aspects for anyone that is looking to improve their love life.
This is the biggest issue that you need to address before you start looking to improve your dating life. And that is how you feel about yourself and the world around you. My job is to teach people how to improve their dating lives and anyone can but like anything worth achieving in life, it takes dedication and self-belief in yourself.
In order to be more practical about this you need to start questioning your current mind-set. For example most guys that come to me think that you can only really meet women in bars and clubs and through their friends. It would never cross their mind that you can meet the girl of your dreams almost anytime and anywhere.
It’s this kind of limiting mind-set that I always push my clients to question as it is usually the main reason that is stopping them from achieving the success that they deserve.
Focus on being the best version of yourself
Most guys have a single minded and almost obsessive need to find the girl of their dreams. Obviously the possibilities are almost endless of what you can achieve with changing your mind-set but most guys tend to have an unhealthy balance in their life.
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A lot of guys tend to have their career sorted but they tend to neglect other areas of their life as well as just their dating life. It really helps to approach your whole life in a more holistic way as in you should focus on being your best self both mentally and physically.
For example go to the gym more, or educate yourself more by doing a course in something that really interests you or travel abroad more. If you do this you will feel a lot more happy and proud of yourself and you will also be a more interesting guy to women that you meet.
Use all your resources
As I mentioned earlier you should look for the solution within yourself and what I mean by this is that you should use all your strengths and talents. For example you should look at the different ways that you can actually meet women besides what you think.
As I mentioned earlier, there is no reason why you can’t approach a girl in a supermarket or in a park and be able to strike up a conversation with her. You can still meet women when you are out at night or if you are using a dating site but keep your mind open to the all the possibilities that are out there.
Improve your social circle
Most importantly you should enjoy the whole process of learning how to be socially intelligent with women and enjoy being in their company of them.
Most importantly you should actually go out of your way to make friends with women as not only will you learn and improve your social skills as a result but they will actually help and set you up with their women friends
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Iain Myles is an internationally recognised dating coach and co-owner of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Kamalifestyles. Iain is also an internet sensation thanks to the multiple viral videos posted through the YouTube channel KamaTV, which has grossed over 100 million views.
Iain has appeared in numerous newspaper columns and radio shows across the world. He is a regular contributor to BBC Radio in the UK.