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How To Cope With Being Single

Being single can be challenging.

Because that’s the time you’ll notice all the happy couples being lovey-dovey, which can trigger feelings of loneliness and sadness.

However, being single is not the death sentence that people make it out to be.

There is peace and solace that you can find in being alone.

When you learn to enjoy your company and make peace with being alone, it gives you power when you go into a relationship.

You’ll get into the relationship from a position of power because you are comfortable with whatever outcome.

So today, I wanted to talk to you about how to deal with being single and stop the feeling of loneliness.

Understand yourself

You keep tolerating toxic relationships because you feel that the woman fills an emptiness in you.

That means that the woman has all the leverage in the relationship.

And you might lose your identity in a relationship like that.

You’ll restructure your personality to be what the woman desires.

So, take time and learn about yourself.

You can understand yourself better when you are alone because an outside force does not influence you.

You’ll have a happier relationship once you know yourself because you’ll know what to look for in a relationship.

Redefine your identity

Your self-worth helps you set your boundaries.

Remember that we allow people to treat us the way we think we deserve.

Low self-worth can make you agreeable to things that take a toll on you emotionally.

You’ll allow the toxicity because you think that’s what you deserve.

But you can build your self-worth when you are alone.

There are no one’s expectations that you have to conform to.

You can rediscover yourself and define a new you that will be happier in a relationship.

You can set new boundaries that will make sure your peace is not interfered with.

Meet new people

It’s easy to get stuck in tunnel vision when your social circle is restricted.

People tend to build their world around the person they are dating, and everything crushes when they walk away.

When you are single, it’s a perfect time to meet new people and forge new relationships.

It will open you up to different perspectives and experiences.

It will help you appreciate the individual experiences, and you’ll also learn to appreciate yours.

Being grateful to yourself makes you comfortable with your own company, which eliminates the feeling of loneliness.

Try out a new hobby

Most of us get lost in our heads when we are alone.

It’s a good thing, but it can also trigger loneliness.

You’ll start thinking of “what if” and that will take you in a rabbit hole that will leave you feeling empty.

However, trying a new hobby can take you out of your head.

It gives you a new challenge or activity to focus on.

The hobby can even get you to meet new people and forge a healthy relationship.

The better two evils

When you fear being single and lonely, you’ll do anything to avoid it.

That makes you powerless in a relationship.

The woman holds all the power because she’s the last line of defence between you and your fears.

You’ll become agreeable and unhappy in the relationship.

However, when you embrace being alone, it gives you a chance to know and understand your value.

If you get into a relationship, you’ll do it from a position of power.

Rediscover your purpose

A purpose is what defines a man’s character.

You behave in a certain way structured to help you achieve your purpose.

The beauty of refocusing on your purpose when you are single is it’s a personal journey.

You redirect the focus from what you don’t have to what you have.

It’s true when you look inwards, you’ll always find something you can hold on to.

Purpose also shifts your focus from now to future, and that can give you hope.

Inject adrenaline into your life

A dull life gives you so much time to think of all the things you don’t have.

The feelings that your thoughts trigger can lead to feeling lonely and miserable.

However, injecting adrenaline into your life gives it the positive energy you need to be comfortable in your skin.

Try out daring activities like skydiving, bungee jumping, paintball, or anything that will get your adrenaline to the roof.

It will allow you to start creating exciting memories that can make you appreciate life more.

Change your mentality

You might be single now, but that’s not a permanent situation.

It’s a chance for you to rediscover and rebuild yourself into a better version of yourself.

Changing your mentality will help change your attitude towards being single.

You’ll embrace it instead of fighting or living in denial, which triggers feelings of loneliness.

Value your company

It’s good to spend time with yourself.

Call yourself for a meeting and hold yourself accountable for your actions.

Figure out the things you need to change to be more attractive and progressive.

Trigger happiness by taking a trip down memory lane and thinking about all the exciting memories.

Learning to value your company will help you become assertive in your relationships because you understand your value.

Let out your inner child

Being alone doesn’t have to mean that you are lonely.

Just look at children.

It’s incredible how a child can play the whole day alone. They seem not even to notice that they are alone.

It will be hard for you to feel lonely when you don’t know you are alone.

Bring out the child in you.

Explore the playful side of you.

Make memories that will trigger happiness when you reminisce.

Remember that the fear of being single can create desperation, and women are unattracted to desperate guys.

So find strength in being alone, and you’ll never be lonely.

…ever again.

Take care,

Iain