Hello everyone, it’s Iain Myles here and so today I’m going to be talking to you about how to stay calm when meeting and cold- approaching girls for the first time. For those of you who missed the release of my new book, it’s all about Social Anxiety and Approach Anxiety, and in this very book I cover how to manage and cure approach anxiety when cold – approaching gorgeous women. So do go ahead and grab yourself a copy of my new eBook right now by clicking on the link in the video description below or by clicking on the card above. So anyway let’s get started!
Now picture this – You have just arrived at the venue where you’ve agreed with your newly found potential woman to meet up for your first date. You turn off the ignition, and as you are about to leave your car, you realize that you are ten minutes early and so you decide to use that time to prepare yourself further for your date. At this point, you affirm yourself with positive words like; “you got this, you’ll be good at it, you’ll have fun, and she will like you back.” Before you can let all that soak in, a tiny voice in your head says something like, “what if I don’t have this?” just like that, the storm begins. Your heart starts pounding like crazy and then follows this weird feeling in your gut as your breath shortens. Out of the blue, your mind is racing; “facts” that seem to support the notion of not having things in control start to stream in. You begin to feel that you do not have this. “What if she doesn’t like me back”, “what is she asks me something, and I don’t know how to respond?” “What if I say something stupid and put her off?” “What if she stands me up?” “Wait, I did read the text correctly? Is this where we are supposed to meet?” “What if I don’t look presentable enough?” Before you know it, the ten minutes are done, and you have already taken five minutes of your date; you are now late…
Well, meeting someone for the first time is nerve- wracking for everybody. It is more so when the person in question is someone you have some degree of interest. It happens this way because we all want to make an excellent first impression on this person. I mean, the ideas we make of ourselves can make or break the deal. As much as it is natural to everyone, it is somewhat different when you struggle with social anxiety. For you, it is not natural and is not just another thing that you can do away with like everyone else. Your stress is the kind that gets you second-guessing yourself and everything you say. It leads you to try too hard to make a good impression that you end up saying absurd things that you would usually never say, you embarrassingly stumble over words or even worse, go utterly blank in front of someone you hope to be in a romantic relationship. All this makes you feel like everybody is watching you.
Well, thanks to my new eBook I’ve recently released at Kamalifestyles, on social anxiety, things are about to change for you. It does not have to be like this. You do not have to suffer mini or major panic attacks anytime you are out meeting new people; you deserve to enjoy meeting up with new women and even picking some up. Like I said before, our new book goes about addressing these matters as approach anxiety will change and turn things round for you. You will notice success and improvement both in the process of practising everything, therein written and even after completing the book.
Some of the things you will get to learn under the guidance of my wise words in the book is how to stay calm whenever you are meeting new people naturally. Here is a sneak peek of how you will be cool, calm, confident and collected:
First of all, and through the help of the eBook, you will learn to appreciate the fact that the person you are meeting is not as bulletproof as you seem to think they are. There is a high chance that they are equally as nervous and anxious as you are. The first and best way to keep yourself calm is by addressing the elephant in the room. Acknowledge that you are quite shy and anxious. You will be amazed to know that your date is too even if she does not look so. Also, verbalizing it has the power of easing all the anxiety and tension.
The second thing you will get to learn is that being open-minded is an attribute you should always have. The good thing about being open-minded is that you rid yourself of all the expectations that would potentially cause you anxiety. You will also get to learn that it is much more fun when you are ready for any outcome. Remember, you are dealing with a person, and people have preferences, and that has nothing to do with you.
Thirdly, you will get insight on how you should detach your self-worth and value from the proceedings and outcomes of the entire interaction. Remember, and as I have said before, people have preferences, and you shouldn’t feel any less of a man for not being someone’s type. This way, you learn how to take things easy. I mean, it shouldn’t be that serious, for all you know you might not be what she wants. As a result, you will still hold your head high and regard yourself even if things do not go as you hoped.
The fourth thing you will come to know is that you shouldn’t demand perfection from yourself. I mean, even the woman you are attracted to is not perfect. Nobody is for that matter. All you have to do is be yourself. If you being your most authentic self is not enough for her, then she is probably not even worth having you. You do not have to bend yourself to please another person. If anything, life is too short to be where you are not appreciated for who you are.
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These are just a few of the things that you will get more detail on from my new book. Also, you will gain a whole new perception of life after going through the novel. You will learn that what will be will be and what won’t just won’t. With this as the case, what’s the point of putting too much pressure on yourself? There is none. Learn this and much more, and social anxiety will be a thing of the past, you will become the person you have always desired to be.
So this is just a sneak preview of what you can expect from my Social Anxiety Book. Gents it is an eye opener for anyone struggling with approach and social anxiety. And as I’ve mentioned above guys, why not take that leap of faith and go and grab yourself a copy of my new book today! You can get yourself a copy by clicking on the link in the video description below or by clicking on the card above. Guys I have many more free videos for you coming soon so do stay tuned at KamaTV. I’m Iain Myles and I’ll see you next time!