Life would have been so much easier if we were taught in schools how to date the way finance and history are taught. However, we cannot soak in our wishes, and so we remain victims of the dating game.
Dating can be challenging regardless of how you approach it. People have different expectations of how they desire their dating life should turn out. Getting a woman where all your expectations align with is like wishing to become Dick Dastardly.
However, a dating coach for men can help you master the art of dating by equipping you with sufficient and relevant skills for dating. You’ll become attractive and irresistible to women once you understand the skills to make them tick. Men that understand how to make women feel like they are the only ones remaining in the species, attract women easily.
In this article, you’ll build your basic dating instinct by exploring various crucial dating skills and becoming a high-value guy in the dating scene. It’s dating 101 and you’ll get insight on women’s dating psychology that will take you a step closer to understanding the women you approach.
You become more attractive when a woman sees what she desires in you. However, most men focus on displaying what they think a woman desires. You’ll end up building a weak foundation with your interaction that won’t help you score the girl.
A dating coach for men builds confidence in guys to show up in dating as themselves. At Kamalifestyles we provide material and support that makes it easy for guys to integrate crucial dating skills with their personality and strengths.
But when you display desirable qualities that women desire, it becomes easy for you to attract women. Let’s explore skills and qualities that will make you a high-value guy in the dating scene:
Build your conversation skills
A conversation is one of the most crucial dating skills that can get you any woman you desire. Skilled conversationalists find it easy to build rapport and trigger and foster emotional bonds in conversations.
Building your conversation skills allows you to efficiently pass your message and understand what the other person is trying to communicate. Most guys take either extra passive or super active roles in conversation with women. That makes it harder to create the rapport that would inspire a progressive conversation.
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Most guys experience “approach anxiety” when they see a woman they like because they don’t know what to say. A snowball effect of self-doubt will grow leading to most guys not approaching women they are attracted to.
Mastering your conversation skills gives you a new form of confidence that will attract women to you. Imagine not being afraid to explore any topic that a woman brings, you’ll not be afraid to approach the woman and even tease her in the process.
Here are tips that will boost your process in mastering different conversation skills:
▪ Understand the strengths of your personality.
▪ Find the right openers to introduce your vulnerable sides in a conversation.
▪ Try to mirror a woman’s conversation patterns.
▪ Learn ways to display emotions in your tone.
▪ Listen and understand nonverbal communication cues.
Build your confidence and emotional stability.
If there’s something that dating will test you it’s your courage and patience. Guys also have fantasies of what their dating life will be like even if it’s unconventional. However, the reality of dating breaks most guy’s confidence and emotional stability.
Some guy’s confidence and emotional stability are crushed when they don’t meet their expectations when diving into dating.
Building your confidence and emotional stability allows you to maintain your authenticity. You get a chance to learn and understand how to be in a relationship with other people without changing your core values.
(Here’s another free eBook to help you build your confidence with women: Confidence Pillars).
Confident guys display high leadership abilities, which can be very attractive to women. Dating requires you to be daring in some areas to escalate the relationship. Sustainable confidence makes you believe in your skills to escalate and inspires comfort in whichever outcome you experience.
Emotional stability builds your confidence to a supreme level. Mastering how to interact with women requires you to know how to manage your beliefs and values in other situations to understand the perspective of the woman you are engaging.
Emotional stability and confidence boost your composure and patience when you are around people with different perspectives and ideologies. You’ll understand a woman for who she is and not how you expected her to behave.
Most women are attracted to men that display emotional stability because it’s easy to connect with them. You’ll understand more about a woman you desire when she feels she’ll have the emotional safety net she needs to unveil things about herself.
Learn the art of flirting.
Flirting is how you take things to the next level. You become irresistible to a woman when she can’t help herself but notice your masculinity. But a woman will find your masculinity strong and attractive when you inspire her feminine side at the same time.
Flirting inspires a wide range of emotions that makes a woman feel girly. It becomes easy to connect and trigger sexual tension when a woman is feeling girly. There’s a point when a woman lets go of all her emotional blocks and makes herself vulnerable.
If you are a Kamalifestyles fan, you’ve seen the various blogs I’ve written on how to flirt with women and score with them. Masters of flirtation are flexible and adapt to a woman’s fantasy world and launch their seduction missiles from there.
(Here’s an awesome blog article on how to sharpen your flirting skills: How do you flirt with a girl).
Most guys have one or two flirting approaches that when they backfire they don’t have any move left. Learning the art of flirting helps you understand the art of persuasion by introducing sexual emotions.
Here are few tips to help you start mastering the art of flirting:
▪ Understand what you have to offer the woman you desire.
▪ Learn how to use humor to introduce sexual topics.
▪ Listen to what the woman desires and expects in a guy she’s dating.
▪ Master your conversation skills.
▪ Learn how to build trust and comfort as you escalate.
Manage your expectations of dating.
Almost every guy wishes to be with the most beautiful woman on the planet. But not every guy ends up with the women they fantasize about dating. Managing your expectations of dating can help you maintain a stable mind and heart in the dating scene.
Dating can be uncertain because the bond exists on mutual agreement. However, it’s certain that you’ll not always have mutual interests, values, and goals at the same time.
Managing your dating expectations will make you flexible to meet and connect with different women. When you don’t have many expectations about a woman, it becomes challenging for her to disappoint you. You’ll maintain a nonjudgmental conversation that will make it easy for women to open up to you.
However, it’s crucial to understand what you desire in a woman when dating. It will make it easy for you to filter through the possible thousands of women that you could approach. It also becomes easy for you to connect with a woman you understand what she has to offer.
Understand the worth you bring.
It’s the nature of men to chase and approach women they desire. However, it’s not a favor if a woman accepts a guy’s advances. The first mistake that guys make in dating is placing the woman they desire on a pedestal and undervaluing their worth.
Most people get into relationships without understanding what it will cost them to be in the relationship. It’s also challenging to initiate a progressive and maintain a healthy relationship if you don’t have defined boundaries.
(Working on your confidence is your best bet to create a healthy relationship. I’d recommend you read this blog: Confidence Course).
You are likely to perceive dating as a challenge when you have your boundaries constantly crossed. Understanding your limits makes it easy for you to draw the blurry lines between desperation and compromise in relationships.
Understanding the worth that you inject in the relationship can give you the confidence you need to approach a woman and score her. Dating is about how well you package yourself to the one you desire. A woman will be more attracted to you if she feels she’s getting a lot from you.
Work on your approach.
Finding the perfect way to approach a woman is a challenge for most guys. You want the woman but you don’t want to mess it up with a lousy opener.
Most guys with a high success rate with women have mastered the art of approaching women. They use their approach to inspire trust, comfort, and action from the start. A woman will be more willing to listen to a guy’s intentions when she trusts and is comfortable with the guy.
One of the quickest ways to make your approach more compelling is by working on your appearance. Most women perceive well-groomed guys as organized and focused. Working with that as your first impression can get you the attention of the woman you want.
The timing of your approach is another crucial factor to consider when aiming for a powerful approach. Women occasionally lower their emotional guards depending on the environment. Approaching a woman when her emotional guard is low can improve your chances of attracting the woman.
Here are a few tips to make your approach irresistible:
- Make your presence felt before you are heard. A woman being startled by your voice from nowhere can be a bit creepy.
- Display welcoming body language and confidence. A soft smile and eye contact can make people comfortable talking to you.
- Master the art of humor. Most women are receptive and trusting even to guys that can make them laugh.
Dating skills don’t come as a default setting to a lot of guys. A dating coach for men allows you to understand the various dynamics of dating. You’ll understand what you are willing to give to get what you desire.
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Iain Myles is an internationally recognised dating coach and co-owner of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Kamalifestyles. Iain is also an internet sensation thanks to the multiple viral videos posted through the YouTube channel KamaTV, which has grossed over 100 million views.
Iain has appeared in numerous newspaper columns and radio shows across the world. He is a regular contributor to BBC Radio in the UK.