You can be generally a confident guy but you still lack confidence when it comes to approaching and dating women you are attracted to. It’s easy for most guys to interact with women they don’t have high stakes because they are comfortable with the outcome.
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In this blog, we’ll explore the crucial role of building confidence in personality shaping and the achievement of desires in dating. You’ll get to explore easy ways to build sustainable self-confidence.
Confidence can be an elusive feeling depending on the situation you are exposed to. However, when you are exposed to a situation repeated enough, you build familiarity with the situation that can inspire the growth of your confidence in the situation.
Building dating confidence makes it easy for you to approach a woman that you desire and score with her. It’s not a guarantee that if you have dating confidence you’ll score with every woman you approach. But it will be easy for you to impress women and overcome rejection when you face it.
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The fear of rejection is one of the common undermining factors of a guy’s success with women. There are two ways that confidence can make you score an own goal:
Low confidence level: It triggers a lot of self-limiting influences that will make you withdraw from the situation. You’ll lose a girl because you can’t express yourself eloquently.
Overconfidence: It makes a guy overestimate their abilities and worth in a situation. An overconfident guy will lose a woman because he’ll appear to be too much.
Let’s explore different ways you can build well-balanced dating confidence:
Understand your weakness as much as strengths
Your strengths are your confidence powerhouse when you approach a woman. However, women qualify men during interactions in various ways that might touch your weakness. Your weaknesses create room for insecurity that can breed a lack of confidence in various situations.
Most guys are tempted to hide their imperfections in an attempt to impress the woman they are attracted to. What most don’t realize is the power that highlighting an imperfection has in protecting you and building your confidence.
Not every guy can be a superman. Understanding your weakness helps you know your limits or the things that you need to work on. A lot of things in life we figure out on the job.
The first step of building dating confidence is accepting your dating weakness. For example, if you are a shy guy. Don’t try to approach women like James Bond wearing a confidence mask because it wears off fast.
It’s easy to look at your weakness like a third party. However, understanding it’s a part of you makes it easy for you to develop confidence from that.
▪ Understand that not all women will find you attractive or exceptional.
▪ Rejection is not a mistake in dating.
▪ Your weaknesses are still part of your personality.
Build your communication skills
It’s frustrating when you feel like you are not being understood. It also makes it challenging to convince a woman to see things from your perspective when you can’t communicate persuasively.
You know that voice that arranges things so well in your head but when you approach a woman you can’t utter a thing? The block is usually triggered by a lack of proper words to translate how you feel or what you are experiencing.
Not being able to express yourself can make you feel helpless and insecure. Building your communication skills gives you insights into how to communicate in different scenarios. You’ll know when to use nonverbal and how to choose your verbal cues to trigger the impact you desire.
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Dating confidence is built by understanding how women interact with guys. Mastering communication skills can give control of a conversation which can be instrumental in digging what you want to know about a woman. You’ll be more confident when you understand the type of woman you are interacting with and what they desire.
Listening is a communication skill that is easy to master but challenging for most people. Most people hear what someone is saying while thinking and structuring their response. Listening intentionally allows you to understand the thought process of a woman and determine the emotions behind her words.
Listening makes approaching and dating women easy because you have knowledge about the women you are interacting with. It gives you the confidence to make choices and adjust a woman’s boundaries.
The power of realistic expectations.
Expectations are crucial because they give you a blueprint of what you desire. Emotional attachment to our expectations is inevitable. When you associate achieving something with happiness, not achieving it will trigger the alternate feeling.
Expectations are powerful in human interactions and they can have a significant impact on a person’s confidence. How you feel about yourself when exposed to various situations can affect how you perceive yourself as a person. Achieving your expectations can be instrumental in building your confidence. You’ll become more daring and the more you achieve the bigger your confidence grows.
However, unrealistic expectations can have an opposite effect on your personality and confidence. You start beating yourself down when you can’t achieve your goals which negatively affects your confidence. You’ll doubt your skills which can trigger the feeling of not being good enough.
Expectations with strict timelines can be disappointing in dating because you are dealing with a person that has an independent thought process. Eliminating rigid timelines from your expectations can build your confidence. You’ll not experience the pressure of achieving because you are running out of time.
Understand your worth
Relationships are maintained by constantly giving or receiving something from each other. It might be the silent things like emotional support. Confidence is crucial in dating because it helps you bargain for your fair share of the pie.
Understanding your worth is about knowing what you are willing to give and receive when you join the dating world. It’s being aware of principles, values, interests, and desires that define you.
Understanding yourself makes you assertive with your decisions and boundaries. It’s easy to get your confidence trashed when women are constantly crossing your boundaries and ignoring your decisions.
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It’s challenging to build your confidence when you are in a situation where you feel you are being used and you don’t know how to exit. Dating can be an emotional prison when you want to maintain a relationship to fit in.
You’ll build your confidence when understanding your worth as you’ll interact with people that treat you the way you desire to be treated. It will boost how you express your views and understand your audience during interactions which will have a positive influence on your confidence.
Build your emotional stability.
Dating puts the emotional stability of people to the test often. It’s the nature of people to test your boundaries to understand you better. However, sometimes the test and qualifications have an emotional toll on people.
How you feel about something can affect your confidence in it. Confidence courses at Kamalifestyles are structured to inspire emotional stability in dating.
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Building your emotional stability is the surest way to build self-confidence. Most people self-sabotage their confidence and its chances of growth. Self-doubt and limiting beliefs make you emotionally unsettled when exposed to situations you are not comfortable with.
Working on your emotional stability allows you to accept the natural way of things you cannot change and inspires you to work on what you can. You’ll remain calm even in situations you are not comfortable with which is one way of boosting your confidence in an uncomfortable situation.
Tips to build your dating confidence:
- Expose yourself to places you can meet women. It becomes easy to be confident around women when you are comfortable around them.
- What she says is an opinion. Treat every woman you approach as a unique case. Carrying around women’s opinions of yourself can affect how you perceive women see you.
- Always be impressed with what you see in the mirror before you go out to approach a woman. When you look good, you’ll feel good about yourself and boost your confidence.
- Watch your body language when you interact with women to relay the same message.
- Take approaching women as you would a hobby until you get the woman you desire.
Building sustainable confidence can be challenging. You have to be willing to question some dear values and principles that might be undermining the growth of your confidence.
Having a blissful dating experience is a dream when you are not confident. However, with the right content and help, any guy can build their dating confidence and attract the women they want.
Kamalifetsyles offers confidence courses and products that can build your confidence. You’ll also get material that will inspire the growth of other vital dating skills such as flirting and seduction which can boost your confidence level.
Emre is author, dating coach and CEO founder of Kamalifestyles. He has written books which sold thousands of copies over a decade. Emre trained and coached many clients from all over the world and men of all ages on how to improve their confidence, relationships and dating.
He has expertise in confidence, approach and attraction and has been featured in top newspapers and radios. He is passionate on helping his clients to achieve great outcomes and make sure they are not held back by the limitations.