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The key to creating instant attraction with women
If you push two people together, they will resist each other but if you pull them apart the opposite will happen, writes JOE.ie’s dating expertStephen Nolan.
There are many ways to build attraction in the first few minutes when you meet a new woman. This week we’re going to discuss one technique that will really skyrocket the impression you make when you meet a beautiful woman for the first time. Time constarint is a powerful technique. Here’s Fergal’s story and how he applied it.
“Two weeks after the Boot-camp, I was out in the bar with one of my friend. It was after midnight and we were just leaving, when I saw this beautiful blonde pass me by.
“She was definitely the best looking woman I had seen that night and I wasn’t about to miss this opportunity. As I was walking by I tapped her on the shoulder and said: ‘Hi I’m Fergal, I’m just leaving, I have to bring my friend home and it’s such a pity because I’m leaving the moment you walk in and I know we would have got on so well together.’
“As I walked away she grabbed me and pulled me back and started asking me questions. One hour later, I was leaving again but this time I had a date with a beautiful woman the next day.”
(Fergal T – Kamalifestyles Boot-camp Student)
Why was the woman in the story attracted so quickly?
For the same reason that diamonds are so expensive, they are rare and what’s rare is valued. She had just met this confident, smiling young man and he was leaving straight away and so she tried to stop him from leaving by asking questions.
If you push two people together, they will resist each other but if you pull them apart the opposite will happen. When you approach a person you have no relationship with, the first thought that will instantly come into your mind is: “How long is this person going to stay?”
It’s a natural human instinct and this thought would occur to each of us if we were in this situation. We have all been in the situation where we were in a conversation with somebody that we just couldn’t get away from. Remember how that feels?
Do you want this person to experience these feelings when you approach them? The time constraint has the subtle effect of pre-emptively dissuading such feelings and also making your presence more valued.
If you want to want to cultivate good emotions and a feeling of comfort right from the start, it is important to let her know that you aren’t going to stay around forever. This will give you time to get to know the person and, once you convey your personality in the right way, they will want you to stay around. To achieve this you could say the following:
“I can only stay for a minute because I have to rejoin my friends at the bar.”
Or even better:
“I can only stay for a minute because my friend has a drink for me at the bar and I don’t want to keep her waiting.”
In the example above, you have created a time constraint and added the value of pre-selection by saying you are with another woman. She will immediately be interested to know your relationship with this girl and will be encouraged to ask you about her. An attraction test straight away! You can make a time constraint at any time throughout the interaction to heighten the attraction. Try it out and get back to me.
Stephen Nolan has appeared in “Battle of the Sexes” as a dating coach and has featured on TV3 speaking on the success of Kama Lifestyles courses.
He has also been featured in many of Ireland’s leading newspapers, including the Irish Times, the Sunday Tribune, Evening Herald for his work with dating coaching and relationship management. He has also spoken on RTE Radio One, 2Fm, Beat 102, South East Radio, Phantom Fm, WLRFM, Dublin’s Q102 and 4FM.
For more tips and advice visit www.kamalifestyles.com
The Correct Way to Approach Women
Women don’t spend hours working on their looks, just to go out chatting with their friends. Most women want guys to approach them, in the correct way. If they are single then they are probably looking for a partner but even if they are in a relationship, then they still regard it as a compliment if a guy approaches.
Understanding the situation from a woman’s perspective will also help you deal with your negative beliefs. In the past, the role of women in society was radically different than that of the present day.
Women had to choose a man of high social value for survival reasons and to protect their family. However, advances in technology have changed women’s roles.
Economical changes, equal rights for women and the innovation of condoms and the birth control pill have had a vast effect on society and beliefs. In the present era, women no longer need men for protection and survival. Women now may make choices based on their own sexual desires.
However, some of this guilt still remains if a woman appears to be too forward.If a woman has casual sex with a man, she can be termed a slut by her friendsand family and this association can easily damage a person’s confidence. Shewill also be termed a slut if she approaches a lot of guys and so most women leave it to the men to approach.
While it may appear that women have many choices amongst men, they can really only choose the ones that approach them. By understanding this social dynamic, you will realize that women actually really want you to approach them. Thus, it is up to you to learn to approach women in the correct way.
You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by approaching
If you approach and lose the girl, what has happened? Think of the worst
things that could possibly happen?
- My mind will go blank and I won’t be able to think of anything to say.
- She will think I am weird
- I will look stupid
Now, let’s examine what you have to gain…
Why are you reading this article in the first place? To meet the woman of your
dreams. There are literally millions of women out there that are your perfect match and are waiting to meet you.
Every time you approach a woman, you are grasping that opportunity and by taking it, you are becoming a better, happier person. The world of dating is very similar to taking part in a lottery.
The only difference is that it is free to compete, you have a much greater chance of winning and if you work on your approach then your chances of willing will dramatically increase. If you do win the Jackpot and meet the woman of your dreams, then you will probably be far happier than you would be if you won the money.
At the very least, if she rejects you, then you can analyze your approach and see where you can improve. If it goes well, then you have another positive experience to strengthen your new beliefs. Every time you approach and try new ideas and techniques you are improving and adding to your skill set.
It has been said that the most successful people are also the people who have suffered the most rejections. If you approach and put work into this area of
your life, you will see constant, powerful improvements. You will start to notice you old beliefs begin to crumble away and by replaced by new, empowering beliefs that will grow more powerful with each successful approach.
After every conversation you should analyze the interaction. Identify the areas that you succeeded in and identify any new ideals that you added into the interaction. Also analyze your weak point and see the areas where you can improve. If you do this regularly, you will very quickly build up your social skill set.
So approach and practice these new powerful beliefs and very soon you will start to see a powerful change in attitudes and begin to recognise other opportunities, where your old negative way of thinking has kept you back in the past.
To learn what to do after the approach check out our ebook “The Score” – How to Create a Successful Relationship.
The Score – How to Create a Successful Relationship
Stephen and Emre have spent several months writing “The Score” and in this book they shares his secrets to meeting and attracting any women you choose to creating a successful relationship.
They have compiled over 200 pages of information that will ultimately SKYROCKET YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN. They have already training hundreds of men from all ages and plans to teach both men and women all around the world.
In this book they teach a learnable process that guarantees to improve your social skills and boost their success with women immediately. I am already half way through the book and most of the stuff that was covered in the bootcamp is contained in this amazing eBook along with alot of new material.
As soon as i finish reading it i look forward to testing it in the real world, the teaching contained in this book has already worked for alot of guys and it will work for you too.
It is easy to read and understand and i highly recommend it to beginners or advanced guys as it was written for those who want to obtain complete success in their relationships and have more choice with women.
The Ebook will also be available in Audio (CD) soon!
For those who have already read the book please leave a review below.
For more info go to The Score – How to Create a Successful Relationship
Jay
