Women are competitve by nature, especially when it comes to men. JOE tells you how to make a woman jealous to reap the rewards.

By Stephen Nolan

Jealously is an incredibly powerful motivator. Anyone who has experienced the effectiveness of this will understand its value.

So many men have had women that they regarded as not sexy enough to be romantic with, only for them to immediately change their minds as soon as another guy entered the equation. Indeed, one of the fastest ways to see if a friend is a potential lover is to make them jealous and see what happens.

It’s all about creating sexual value and allowing her to see you as a man. Once you build up your sexual value in her eyes, she may very well realise that she does, in fact, have feelings for you. It is important to let the person come to their own conclusion.

Contrary to what many people think, it can also be a good idea to specifically bring up another woman or a past experience with a girl in detail.

When you meet somebody in a bar, you can create value through your stories and general conversation. You should also be touching frequently to escape the friends zone and build sexual tension.

Contrary to what many people think, it can also be a good idea to specifically bring up another woman or a past experience with a girl in detail. The next time you are in a bar, and you have created a connection with somebody, tell a story about an exciting experience that you had with your girlfriend. Go into a little detail, speak in a protective way and paint her in a good light, and she will start to see you in a very attractive light.

Mind games

You can also ask her what features she looks for in a man and once listed, she will ask you what you look for in a woman. Instead of randomly picking body parts, describe a woman you met recently and offer the vivid details of what she was like.

She will probably ask you about your relationship with her, which is an obvious attraction test. Without specifying the relationship, or even whether it’s over, give her an image of the amount of fun you had together. You can easily imply that you have an intimate relationship with her by saying the following:

“One of the best things was/is that she cooks absolutely amazing breakfast…”

Obviously if a woman is cooking you breakfast, she has more than likely spent the night with you. If you have pictures of the woman on your phone, this is even better. Do this correctly and the energy in the conversation will become electric.

The most powerful way to display your sexual value is to subtly demonstrate to her that other women are attracted to you. This is incredibly powerful and will trigger instant attraction. This is what she wants you to do. She wants you to understand how to how to trigger those powerful feelings of attraction in her.

Into action

In a bar, you can do this so simply. All you have to do is to build value with her and get to know her a little and then when you know she is attracted, simply start a conversation with another girl in front of her.

It is a fact that women feel attraction towards men in the company of other women. Women have a very competitive nature, especially when it comes to men. Once you learn how to bring out that sense of competition in a woman, you will very quickly be able to create very strong feelings of attraction.

Stephen Nolan has appeared in “Battle of the Sexes” as a dating coach and has featured on TV3 speaking on the success of Kama Lifestyles courses.

He has also been featured in many of Ireland’s leading newspapers, including the Irish Times, the Sunday Tribune, Evening Herald for his work with dating coaching and relationship management. He has also spoken on RTE Radio One, 2Fm, Beat 102, South East Radio, Phantom Fm, WLRFM, Dublin’s Q102 and 4FM.

For more tips and advice visit www.kamalifestyles.com

On a date, if you bring somebody to a variety of locations, it establishes comfort between you far more quickly. This can also create a much deeper connection with her each location instills more memories. The same principle can also work when you meet the person for the first time. For example, the next time you are in bar, rather than simply going for the easy option of asking her for her phone number, try to bring her with you to a different bar.

By doing this you are giving her an attraction test and if she complies with you, then you know that a certain level of trust exists between you. To switch bars, you can simply say one of the following:

“Hey guys, there is a really cool live band playing in a bar up the street…We are going now but you guys should come too – you will love it”

or

“We are going to another bar to meet some friends – you should come with us”

If you suggest going to her place, your place, or a hotel room you’re more than likely going to get a negative response unless you can tell she wants to cuddle up to you. On the other hand a live music bar or a late night pizza place will  work far better in your favour. Bringing a girl or a group to multiple locations is a way of building comfort with her.

With each venue change, her trust in you will grow and you will connect much easier together. This is assuming, of course, that there was a smooth transition and that interesting conversation and activities take place at each location. By changing venues, you are also taking the lead in the interaction and she is choosing to follow you.

This is especially important and it will really raise your value. You are also creating a time distortion and because of the change in venues, they will feel like they have known you for much longer than just a few hours. When you leave the club with a girl or a group, you need to establish that you are leading immediately.

This is very important as if you do not, guys may come up and flirt with them on the street or they may get distracted by other people or different clubs etc. Thus, when you leave the club, go to the person you are interested in and say the following:

“Show me your hand… (Link arms with her)

…Now if any women come up to hit on me, you have to save me – promise!”

If you have changed locations to several different bars and you are getting on really well, the next step is to bring drive around with them in your car. You can do this easily by suggesting to go to another bar, a little farther away but you will drive over.

If they are not comfortable with getting into your car, then you can either build more comfort and try again or simply organise a date and say your goodbyes. However, if you phrase it in the right way, they will usually realize that it is no big deal and they will gladly get in.

If you are with your wingman and two girls, put him in the back with his girl and now the person you are interested in is beside you. Make sure you have some good music to keep up the mood and the energy. Go to a few different bars and if they are comfortable with it, you can bring them back to your house for a few drinks. If they do not want to go, then give them a lift home as this will build more comfort and trust and show you to be a cool guy.

If she comes back to your place, then you know that she really trusts you and is attracted to you. In the house, make sure to sit next to her. Make your house exciting and have it unique to you so you can show it off to her. Have some pictures in the laptop, paintings on the wall, interesting music you want her to listen, ornaments that you bought on holidays and even your pet you want to show her.

A boring house shows you to be a boring guy. She is in your house so make sure she is comfortable and make her feel welcome and at home. Ask her what she wants to drink and give her options.

Do not offer alcohol as she might think that you are trying to make her drunk. So start with “I have coffee, tea and wine” and pick one of them based on your desire for yourself and let her choose what she wants.

It is highly recommended that you also have plenty CD’s ready to listen from various singers while she is with you in the home as silence might make her feel tense and ruin the mood. Once you know that she is comfortable, you can begin to kiss her.