Women are competitve by nature, especially when it comes to men. JOE tells you how to make a woman jealous to reap the rewards.

By Stephen Nolan

Jealously is an incredibly powerful motivator. Anyone who has experienced the effectiveness of this will understand its value.

So many men have had women that they regarded as not sexy enough to be romantic with, only for them to immediately change their minds as soon as another guy entered the equation. Indeed, one of the fastest ways to see if a friend is a potential lover is to make them jealous and see what happens.

It’s all about creating sexual value and allowing her to see you as a man. Once you build up your sexual value in her eyes, she may very well realise that she does, in fact, have feelings for you. It is important to let the person come to their own conclusion.

Contrary to what many people think, it can also be a good idea to specifically bring up another woman or a past experience with a girl in detail.

When you meet somebody in a bar, you can create value through your stories and general conversation. You should also be touching frequently to escape the friends zone and build sexual tension.

Contrary to what many people think, it can also be a good idea to specifically bring up another woman or a past experience with a girl in detail. The next time you are in a bar, and you have created a connection with somebody, tell a story about an exciting experience that you had with your girlfriend. Go into a little detail, speak in a protective way and paint her in a good light, and she will start to see you in a very attractive light.

Mind games

You can also ask her what features she looks for in a man and once listed, she will ask you what you look for in a woman. Instead of randomly picking body parts, describe a woman you met recently and offer the vivid details of what she was like.

She will probably ask you about your relationship with her, which is an obvious attraction test. Without specifying the relationship, or even whether it’s over, give her an image of the amount of fun you had together. You can easily imply that you have an intimate relationship with her by saying the following:

“One of the best things was/is that she cooks absolutely amazing breakfast…”

Obviously if a woman is cooking you breakfast, she has more than likely spent the night with you. If you have pictures of the woman on your phone, this is even better. Do this correctly and the energy in the conversation will become electric.

The most powerful way to display your sexual value is to subtly demonstrate to her that other women are attracted to you. This is incredibly powerful and will trigger instant attraction. This is what she wants you to do. She wants you to understand how to how to trigger those powerful feelings of attraction in her.

Into action

In a bar, you can do this so simply. All you have to do is to build value with her and get to know her a little and then when you know she is attracted, simply start a conversation with another girl in front of her.

It is a fact that women feel attraction towards men in the company of other women. Women have a very competitive nature, especially when it comes to men. Once you learn how to bring out that sense of competition in a woman, you will very quickly be able to create very strong feelings of attraction.

Stephen Nolan has appeared in “Battle of the Sexes” as a dating coach and has featured on TV3 speaking on the success of Kama Lifestyles courses.

He has also been featured in many of Ireland’s leading newspapers, including the Irish Times, the Sunday Tribune, Evening Herald for his work with dating coaching and relationship management. He has also spoken on RTE Radio One, 2Fm, Beat 102, South East Radio, Phantom Fm, WLRFM, Dublin’s Q102 and 4FM.

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One of the most common mistakes that people make is that once they start having fun with somebody, they escalate the interaction, without finding out about the other person’s personality and character. As a result, you have no real idea what this person is actually like.

Through your story-telling they may know your attractive qualities and have a good idea of the type of person you are, but, because you have not taken the time to get to know them properly, there is no compelling reason for them to consider escalation the attraction.

When you do take the time to get to know the other person, you will reach a new level of comfort with the other person. By the other person confiding in you, an emotional connection will be created and this will bring you closer together. By using the tools in the earlier chapter, you will have succeeded in creating a great first impression and a strong connection. It is time to get to know the person a little better.

You must remember that somebody will only open up to you once they are attracted so do not qualify them until you know attraction is present. In order to create and maintain an emotional connection with her, you must go a little deeper and try to find out the type of person she really is. The last thing you want to do is to give off the vibe of a player, who simply takes her number and leaves, leaving her feeling cold, used, and impersonal.

To deepen the connection, you need to understand one another and begin to form a relationship. You want to deepen the rapport and really get to know this person. In order to get to know anybody, you have to be willing to share personal information about yourself. The simple act can create incredible comfort between two people. It is important to only discuss topics that both of you will be comfortable talking about. Try to keep a distance from any negative topics as you should aim to create and share positive emotions.

Some sample topics are listed below:

• Family/Social Circle Relationships
• Important Characteristics
• Animals
• Ambitions
• Sports
• Passions in Life
• Travel
• Hobbies
• Her values and your values
• Childhood experiences
• Friendship

These topics are excellent for learning about her experiences and sharing about yourself. Try to keep away from boring or vague topics that you have no real interest in. What fake interest, when you can discuss actual topics that you are genuinely interested in. Some questions you might ask are shown below:

• “What’s the most breathtaking thing you’ve ever seen?”
• “If you could be anything you want, what would you choose?”
• “What is your best memory?”

The more comfort you build with her, the more you will understand each other better and the greater the connection.