There are many mistakes that guys make with women, which instantly kills the attraction. Once you identify them and become aware of them, you change your behavior and bring constructive changes into your life, thereby making you far more successful. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing and strengthening. An understanding of these mistakes can change your whole life.

If you have been exhibiting any of these mistakes, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is time to get rid of these negative thoughts and behaviors and lead your relationships. Make a note of them and start today. Changing even one of then suggestions below, will bring more success into your dating life!

Nice Guy Frame – If there is one thing that turns a woman off quicker than anything else, it’s the moment she sees you as a nice guy. As stated earlier, women are subject to biology. Women have 200,000 years of evolution and gender roles, to help them in their search for a man. Deep down, most women want a strong, decisive, confident man – the type of man that would have kept her safe thousands of years ago.

A nice guy is unable to unlock this level of attraction in her, leading too many problems in the relationship. It’s still an instinct that dictates their reactions to men and so, in many cases, the woman will become frustrated and walk over a weak guy. The truth is, biology is often the reason why women react in certain ways to men. While being a jerk is never going to get you success with women, considering the biology that goes into relationships will.

So what’s the best thing to do? By being a strong confident alpha, you are combining what women say they want, with what their instincts tell them to look for. The fact is, a woman will never use the word “nice” describe a man she’s attracted to. Of course, there is a time to be nice as long as you are also confident, decisive and strong.

Qualifying before she Qualifies - If you qualify yourself  before she shows interest, you will come across as approval seeking, which is a major turnoff. Approval seeking is a very needy and unattractive behavior that you should seek to eliminate, or minimize as much as possible. It communicates insecurity as you show that you need other people to validate you.

Don’t offer your resume, your earning potential, and tell her how you can change her life right away. If you do, you will end up looking like a wimp and no woman likes a wimp. She is looking for guy who does not need approval and is a leader of his own life. An alpha male does not need the approval of others as he has a more solid foundation to base his self esteem on. When you meet a woman, do not qualify yourself until she had displayed interest in you.

Not having standards - Setting and maintaining standards is one of the most  important factors in dating. If you are not the selector then you need to start setting standards right away. A woman will never feel attraction for a man, who has no idea of what he is looking for. Every person has their own preference when

it comes to dating. It is important to make sure that these expectations remain realistic and attainable. Setting expectations that are too high will limit your prospects.  By trying to identify how compatible the two of you really are by looking beyond the superficial early on, you have just demonstrated that you are a high value guy.

Trying to buy her emotions – Men and women relate to money differently and don’t always handle it in the same way. One of the biggest mistakes men make is that they try to influence women’s emotions by spending large amounts of money on them. This type of emotional spending can actually have the adverse effect and drive the couple apart.

Some men even buy presents to keep a woman interested when they know she is seeing other people. Why waste time and money on somebody who has perfected the art of using people to get what they want without giving anything in return? You simply cannot spend money on people until they respect and appreciate you.

Yet guys still think they can change her and almost force her to like him by buying her presents. Check out any of the TV court shows and you will quickly see the fallout from this type of arrangement. Many guys often spend a lot of money buying her a new wardrobe, only to have her leave him for another man. You dress her up in the best clothes, only to have her dump you for another man who is thrilled to get such a polished fashionable lady. Buying her presents isn’t going to make your relationship more solid, and you will lose the good ones and keep the shallow ones.

Depending on Permission or Confirmation – Women are looking for a guy who can lead and show her the right path in a relationship. No woman wants to lead in the relationship and a man that is indecisive is actually forcing the woman to take the lead. For example, if a woman asks you what you want to do on a date, you should never reply with…

“I don’t mind…What do you want to do?”

This does not mean that she does not have a say on what to do. It simply means that you must have a plan and have a habit of making the decisions in your life.

The more decisive you are with women, the more of a leader you are in your life and women find this incredibly attractive. The power of leading has a bigger impact on women than you could ever imagine. Indecision has ruined so many relationships and if you want to keep the attraction alive, you must always lead the relationship.

Sacrificing your identity- You are a strong, self assured guy, with your own views and opinions. When guys meet somebody that they are really attracted to,they sometimes tend to get so caught in the relationship that they lose their own separate identity. If the other person offers an opinion, they simply agree with it incase they offend the other person. This is a huge trap and it is covered in detail in the section on attraction tests. By sacrificing their identity, they risk losing what made

them attractive in the first place. They lose a part of themselves and by giving up their own views and beliefs; they are bound to feel a little resentment. How do you overcome this?

If asked, simply state your views. You don’t have to change anyone’s mind or convert them to your point of view but, at all times, you must maintain your own identity.

These are just a few examples of mistakes that guys commonly make. Almost all of these mistakes are connected to the issue of leading the relationship. Women are attracted to MEN, not little girls posing as men. You must choose your own direction in the relationship.

If you lead without needing her to follow,you are developing the masculine leadership side of yourself. This is hugely attractive and exactly what the other person wants you to do. You don’t care if people go in the direction that you want and you don’t need them to, but if they want to follow you – that’s great!

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