Over the last few years that I have been working with Kamalifestyles, my company has taught many clients and the most rewarding has been seeing my clients make huge breakthroughs in this area of their life. When it comes to dating there are no set rules or restrictions and our clients through our guidance, have eventually found what has worked specifically for them. A good example of this is meeting women during the day and at night. Some students have really taken to night game where they approach and meet women in bars and clubs whereas some of my clients have found that they have found meeting women during the day has worked better for them as they have got more results. When it comes to approaching women during the day, once you get your head around the fact that not only is it okay to approach a girl during the day it is actually a great opportunity to meet some great women that you might not meet in bars. But when it comes to approaching and meeting women during the day you will find that you will have to take a slightly different approach.
1. Picking the right time and place
The good thing about approaching women during the day is you have a lot more options as in places to pick in order to find women. But it is important to know the best suited areas and I would recommend going to social areas instead of quiet places. Good examples of this would be shopping centres, museums, concerts and parks. You will have a lot more to work with in terms of numbers and a girl will be a lot more open to you approaching her in a shopping centre as opposed to a quiet empty street at night. This brings me to my next point which is timing. Approaching a girl in a quiet place like a street at night will be far more difficult as obviously she will be more on edge. Simply don’t make work for yourself. A girl standing in a shopping centre that is not on her phone will be far more open to be approached than a girl walking fast and on her phone to someone.
2. Using the right opener
There is no right or wrong when it comes to approaching. Direct and indirect both work and use whatever suits you best. Being indirect like asking where the toilets are is a great way to gauge how receptive a girl might be to you because if she comes across as friendly and open, you can carry the conversation on and if she comes across as short or even rude then you are saving putting yourself out there and you can end the interaction and move on. The downside to this is even if she is friendly she may have a boyfriend and you will end up wasting time talking to her. Being direct can risk putting the girl off as you may come across as too forward or direct to her but the positive to this is if she is receptive she will immediately let you know where you stand and not only that she will be very impressed by your openness and confidence. If you do decide to be direct, I advise that you use a false time constraint as part of your opener as she will be more at ease knowing that you won’t be staying long and it’s also a great excuse to wrap up the conversation and get her number as she knows you are waiting on someone.
3. Reading the situation
It is important that you don’t make work for yourself and what I mean by this is learn to read the situation well. This applies when initially approaching and when you have approached and engaged conversation with the girl. For example its best not to approach a girl who is on the phone or walking fast as she is most likely in a rush or too busy engaged in a conversation and won’t have time to entertain you whereas I mentioned earlier its best to pick a girl who is standing or sitting on her own own in a coffee shop or in a park. When it comes to the point where you have approached and engaged the girl it helps to be able to read how receptive she is to you, not only verbally like I mentioned before but also physically by her body language. If she appears to be open and friendly and is playing with her hair this is a good sign that she is attracted to you whereas if she appears closed off with folded arms and short yes and no answers then she unlikely to be interested and its best to end the conversation and move on.